“Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer for having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retribution.”
“Kids love routine. And ritual is routine with sprinkles and extra sauce.”
“Your first responsibility with your kids is to enjoy them… because they know if you don’t.”
“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”
“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help.”
Teich Naht Hanh
“We are punished by our sins, not for them.”
“Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most imporant work.
“All my best days begin with you in my arms.”
Life can be so hard sometimes, but there’s something beautiful and magical about facing those hard moments with honesty. Somewhere in the middle of never ending laundry runs, a mountain of dishes with a life all its own and the tornado of toys left behind when my kids leave any room, I stop taking in moments to breathe. I start to shut down inside to do whatever it takes to get through the day. But if I catch myself, I realize there is something more than meets the eye — there is something extraordinary going on.
These are the best days of my life.
Last night was such a moment. My wife and I took a 10 minute break in between after the kids went to bed and before we tackled the kitchen (for the 5th time that day). We sat snuggling for a moment in each others’ arms, gently swinging on our porch watching the sun go down and let our minds wander. Surprisingly, our thoughts both rested in gratitude. For a moment we looked at each other — past the peanut butter in her hair and the bags under my eyes. The life we’ve always dreamed of is here. We’re doing it. This is it.
Soak it in and let yourself smile. Let yourself enjoy your life just as it is.
“Children are their parents’ guests. They come into the space that has been created for them, stay for a while–fifteen, twenty, or twenty-five years–and leave again to create their own space. Although parents speak about ‘our son’ and ‘our daughter,’ their children are not their property. In many ways children are strangers. Parents have come to know them, discover their strengths and their weaknesses, and guide them to maturity, allowing them to make their own decision.
“The greatest gift parents can give their children is their love for each other. Through that love they create an anxiety-free place for their children to grow, encouraging them to develop confidence in themselves and find the freedom to choose their own ways in life.”